Siete Cosas

In the tradition of A. Jodorowsky

Inspired by Alejandro Jodorowsky, who shares 7 deep thoughts every Sunday on his IG.

Seven random thoughts for you - trying to do this once a week:

ONE

They don’t tell parents that your relationship to your own mortality and fragility will change when you become a parent (a mother).

Your kids will wonder about your death, out loud, to you, and you will have to engage with their wonderings - it will feel very triggering - you are being invited to make peace with Death. You will have health scares, you will have to contemplate what it would be like if they grew up without you - it will feel very triggering - you are being invited to make peace with their conditioning, their individuation, their burdens - all of it, all of it inevitable.

Ultimately, you are grappling with letting go of control - Death is a teacher. Ultimately, you are being initiated into the powerlessness of life. Ultimately, paradoxically, it is empowering to continue to press on the bruise of your ephemerality.

TWO

If I’m being embarrassingly honest, I’m a total whore for being controlled. Just tell me what to do. Pack my schedule for me. Decide for me. I’ll just follow along. That feels so good.

To not think for myself, to not be in charge of myself.

I don’t want to be in charge of my day, let alone my whole life.

The responsibility for being alive is crushing. Let someone else be in charge. See also: why religion is so successful.

THREE

Humans are mycelial.

If there is an “identified patient” they are holding/acting out the issues of the others in the network - mark my words. They are the fruiting body - but everyone is contributing to the mycelial network.

Same with a “class clown” or a “disruptive peer” - we need to be mindful that this child/person is not acting independently - they are acting out something that the collective is holding and is foisting on them.

They are likely being subtly instigated or provoked or projected upon by the collective, the family, the other children.

To hold them “responsible” as the sole agent is woefully shortsighted. And it won’t fix the issues of the collective - it will just give the individual shame that is not theirs.

FOUR

The more painful it is to be in the present, the more we will disassociate.

When we see a culture that is flocking to AI, to Netflix, to scrolling social media, to cheap/fast consumption, to addictions of various guises, we see a culture that is in the throes of escape/fantasy/disassociation.

But the answer is NOT to escape harder/faster/more - the answer is to work to make reality - present, here/now reality - more bearable. This is a collective burden and requires a collective - and political - effort.

Yes, it is easier to just keep disassociating. Yes, disassociation is valid in such a trauma vortex as we live in. Yes, we can wonder when and where disassociation crosses the line into self-harming behavior. Yes, there is nuance.

tl;dr: where there is disassociation, there is discomfort with reality. Collective disassociation indicates a need to clean up collective reality - and make it kinder and softer to those who live in it.

FIVE

Don’t be fooled - women are not as free and liberated as we think.

Women - I need you to know that getting married and having kids teleports you back to the 1920s. Make these decisions with great care and caution.

You will be deeply compromised (read: constricted, trapped, depleted) financially, physically, energetically. Your very *humanity* will be diminished.

This is not a truth many will share. This is a truth that is taboo - and very powerful. For this reason, I give it to you. It is not a happy truth, but it’s important for you to know.

SIX

A lot of us are not especially spiritual people, but we get pushed into becoming spiritual when the mundane gets too difficult to deal with using purely mundane means.

Don’t get it twisted - spirituality is deeply pragmatic.

It’s not a “nice to have.” For some of us, it’s a humbling “must have.” It becomes a true need, and a welcome resource - reached for out of desperation, but still.

For some people, spirituality is about bypassing reality. For some people, spirituality signals they are navigating a deep and painful reality - these are not the same.

SEVEN

It turns out relating is not about seeking similarity, but about learning to navigate difference generatively - accepting difference in a way that preserves instead of discards relationship.

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